As I’ve worked with folks over the past few years, two themes in my work keep getting clearer – one is the fact that I have these intuitive and mental insights, an ability to see into folks’ issues and find the right words, the right perspective, the next layer to help folks move forward in a loving way.   I can see past the trauma, past the emotion, to the complete wholeness of the person and what happens is that then the other person begins to re-connect with their own sense of wholeness.  It’s a pretty amazing process and I’m absolutely humbled by it.  And it’s a combination of EFT, who I am, and who my clients are that allows that to happen.  Not every EFT practitioner has the same effect and result.  We each have a piece we contribute to the whole pie.

The other theme that’s getting clear, and is tied to the first, is I’m becoming more and more aware of my unwavering commitment to help folks discover and connect with their uniqueness, finding their own inner authority and strength and gifts.    EFT is part of this process but I’m finding that I also need to draw on other models.  I was using the Enneagram but since discovering Human Design, I am using that more and more instead.

What this means for you is that I now will be sharing about design as I write and if you work with me one-on-one, I’ll often draw on your human design to inform our session, just as I draw on family constellations when it’s appropriate.  

Here’s some feedback from a beautiful client of mine that explains and the power of design combined with EFT.  

I’ve always thought the timing of making New Year’s resolutions has been wrong, too rushed, and just not in synch with nature.   It definitely is not in synch with my internal timing and all the emails I get from other coaches asking me to set goals really irk me!  I personally use the entire month of January to reflect and get clarity and I just discovered that there’s a systemic reason for this. From a human design perspective, the New Year doesn’t begin until later in January.  Sort of cool that the internal time table I was already following is also a cosmic time table!  (See closing the door at http://www.jovianarchive.com/site/site.html)

The rush to make resolutions can actually rob us of a powerful reflection and intention setting process. Now is the time to gently reflect on this past year, to sink into the emotions of both joy of a life on track and perhaps even despair of a life not meeting our expectations.   But don’t run from this joy or this despair – allow the journey into the feelings to guide you to what is important.  Be willing to explore the shame of goals unmet to find the deep desire underneath those goals.  Be willing to let go of facades and others’ expectations and listen to what’s deep inside of you.

And then your deep desires can bubble up from inside of you, the commitment can build, the excitement of what is possible can ignite you, and you’ll find extreme clarity about what’s worth spending your time on, your energy on, your life on!

So let’s consider a few questions:

Looking at this past year, what have you done, become, let go, changed that makes you smile?  If the answer is nothing and just the very question drags you down, that’s a pretty good sign that we can do some tapping and do deeper into what message is asking to be heard.

The set-up:

Even though my life has failed this year, and I have NO successes whatsoever, I am open to the idea of loving and accepting myself.

Now imagine being tied down like Gulliver of Gulliver's travels with hundreds of tiny but strong ropes.  Each rope is anchored to the ground ... it is not so easy to move anymore is it?  EFT is one approach to snip all those ropes, very effectively releasing all those extra baggage that comes from past traumas, limiting beliefs, and past experiences.

But what happens when we are done snipping those ropes?  What comes next? 

I've been astounded watching my clients move from fixing into creating: expanding their lives, following their dreams, making new decisions, stepping into their power.  They still use tapping to support themselves as needed but they have so much time and energy and confidence now they look and feel like different people.  They now trust themselves, knowing that their needs and values and desires are completely valid.  They understand that it's not that they don't fit into the world, it's that they just didn't know their unique place and value.  They understand that their journey and process with all the pain and challenges and bumps was the doorway into an incredible radiant and glowing life.   

So as you check in with yourself, ask yourself a few questions:

• What is still bugging me about my life?