There is an immense family loyalty and love that shows up in our behavior -- the system desires to be whole and each of us will do our part to illuminate that wholeness. When we start to look at "undesirable" behavior and see the underlying love that is there, everything changes. When we can look at the family secrets with love, the family system transforms. When we can include those who have been excluded, the energy of love begins to flow freely. When we can accept our family's fate with love and honor and respect and see the nobility of the past but not despair in the pain, we open ourselves up to taking our rightful place as the descendant of our ancestors. When we can accept and thank our parents for giving us the one gift that no one else can - the gift of life, we step more fully into who we are.

My current experience of Richard Rudd's work with the Gene Keys is all about going into the shadows and finding the gifts.  Our work with the family matrix is built on the very same premise - going into the shadows of our families and finding the gifts.  

So with thanks for our families,

Deborah

Hello friends,

Below is a powerful tapping script that comes from my work with the family matrix and EFT.  Please do leave questions and comments -- it's very useful to me and others ...

I invite you to expand your concept of family and home for just a bit and see how our hearts still carry our history of many generations .... 

When we choose to leave

The U.S. is known for being somewhat mobile – folks move around the countryfor work, for jobs, to go to school, to follow their dreams, or to find a better life.  The unspoken price of moving around is leaving our families.   In fact, if you look at the energy of the U.S. as a whole,we all left someplace to come here. Whether our parents, ourgrandparents, or generations before, we chose, or were forced to leave, our homeland.

This hidden loss of our homeland can show up in our lives today as an entanglement – basically that means that part of ourenergy is still tied to our ancestor’s homeland and until we can see and name and feel and accept that loss and connection, we won’t fullyfind our places here.

this blog originally appeared at thesagemama.com

As the mother of a boy and two girls, I find it easier to get along with my daughters than my son. I hate saying this and yet it is true. I understand my girls and share similar interests with them. I find my son to be abrasive and rude at times (my judgements ....) and it's not easy being with him. Even with my understanding of Law of Attraction and how our perceptions affect our reality, I haven't been able to shift this (yet).

I often wish for a more peaceful relationship with my son and, until now, that meant wanting him to be different.

My son and I have a very close yet sometimes intense relationship. We are quick to argue and resist each other. My son is my built-in authenticator - if I say something that is not true or authentic for me, he calls me on it. He exposes any faulty thinking or inconsistent values and calls me to have the highest integrity possible ...

My son and his initial needs led me to attachment parenting, homeopathy, different forms of bodywork, energy medicine in general, emotional freedom techniques, family constellations, birth process work, and more. Most of what I've learned in the past 10 years has been somehow prompted by my son.

My son won't go with the flow. Being who he is lead me to consider homeschooling. Being my son's mother, I have had to shatter pre-conceived notions about almost everything I know about parenting and raising children.