this blog originally appeared at thesagemama.com

As the mother of a boy and two girls, I find it easier to get along with my daughters than my son. I hate saying this and yet it is true. I understand my girls and share similar interests with them. I find my son to be abrasive and rude at times (my judgements ....) and it's not easy being with him. Even with my understanding of Law of Attraction and how our perceptions affect our reality, I haven't been able to shift this (yet).

I often wish for a more peaceful relationship with my son and, until now, that meant wanting him to be different.

My son and I have a very close yet sometimes intense relationship. We are quick to argue and resist each other. My son is my built-in authenticator - if I say something that is not true or authentic for me, he calls me on it. He exposes any faulty thinking or inconsistent values and calls me to have the highest integrity possible ...

My son and his initial needs led me to attachment parenting, homeopathy, different forms of bodywork, energy medicine in general, emotional freedom techniques, family constellations, birth process work, and more. Most of what I've learned in the past 10 years has been somehow prompted by my son.

My son won't go with the flow. Being who he is lead me to consider homeschooling. Being my son's mother, I have had to shatter pre-conceived notions about almost everything I know about parenting and raising children.

this blog originally appeared at thesagemama.com

I do much better away from home. I thrive on being busy and interacting with others, having things to do and places to be.

Being home can be challenging for me; I get bored with the housework and find myself restless. And yet I know that if I am truly at peace with myself, then I can be at peace anywhere. I know that my distraction of busyness away from the home is a mask and that my greatest challenge is learning to find peace during the ordinary moments of life.

 Because of this busyness I have in me, meditation is a great comfort for me and I yet don't always find the time to make it happen. However, it is the most important of all my self-care activities.

I was talking with my mentor yesterday about my feeling bogged down by the mundane. She suggested, and I've heard it before, to think about transforming my mundane chores into a meditative practice. By merging with the task at hand and seeing the work as an essential part of life rather than a thing to get done, I can reconnect with the calm center inside that is accessible to all of us. She really got my attention when she told me that by doing this energetic practice, I am also helping others - that I am changing the vibration of my world and that is positive for others as well.