For folks interested in learning more about their human design and how it impacts their parenting, relationships, work and life in general, I thought I'd offer some first steps.

The first thing to do is to run your chart.  You can go to: 

http://www.jovianarchive.com/Newcomers/Pages/CreateChart.aspx.

Go ahead and run your children and spouse's chart as well.

When you get your charts, the first thing you want to pay attention to is the type.  There are four/five types:

Whether we are the adults getting divorced, the young children of the divorced parents, or even the adult children of divorced parents, divorce matters.  

For the adults getting divorced, there are the usual feelings of guilt, relief, grief, betrayal all mixed up in one.  For the children, there is often a hidden feeling of not being wanted.  Even if the divorce was for the best, and the parents are attentive and supportive, there is often a left-over feeling of the marriage being a mistake.  And if the marriage was a mistake, then the children are a mistake – or at least, that’s how they feel. 

It takes conscious effort to reinforce that the children are a product of love, even if the parents can’t stand each other.  The key to this is seeing the love that created the children, even if the relationship is over.   Sometimes this shift can happen with a few rounds of tapping.  Sometimes there are more hidden dynamics interfering with the flow of love.  This tapping script below will help get you started.

This tapping is for the parents. 

Set-Up Phrase

After talking today with a prospective client, I was thinking about how so much of what I do with folks is helping them trust themselves a little bit more … 

Whether it’s a desire to be an awesome mother in an unconventional way or a desire to stop being judgmental or a desire to connect with our spouse or a desire to feel included at a family gathering, we have these internal conflicts about who we are supposed to be and how we are supposed to feel.

Many of my clients are folks who are spiritual seekers who have always felt a little bit different from mainstream but haven’t understood that their way of seeing and being in the world is just as valid and important as everyone else’s.  It’s the Ugly Duckling Story in real life … we don’t fit in with the ducks but think it’s our fault.

In fact it’s nobody’s fault – it’s just that we are swans and until we meet another swan, we always feel defective.

Luckily we don’t need to meet 100 other swans, just one.